Many people in recovery have family members that are aware of their addiction. After all, it is a family disease. However, as a person in recovery, you can have privacy and anonymity. It’s your choice what you disclose and to whom. If you want to talk to a family member about your substance use disorder, you may want to plan what you say ahead of time. How much you disclose and why are all up to you. There are some things you may want to consider when you speak with a family member.

Telling Your Family Your Story

Everyone has a story, and people can learn from it. Prepare for the conversation, if you can. Setting boundaries for the discussion may be necessary for you.

You don’t need to give private information that you find embarrassing. For example, if you were arrested, you may not feel comfortable sharing that part of your story with your family member. But the feelings – feeling degraded, “less than,” and shameful, are things you may want to describe to your family members. Specifics about your drugs use are not necessary.

If A Family Member Needs Help With Substance Use

 

Some people have family members who will come to them when they want advice about their substance use or that of a loved one. It is entirely your call to speak with them.

You’re not responsible for helping somebody get sober, but you can offer your experience, strength, and hope. You can offer to take them to a meeting or help them find a treatment facility. However, you don’t have to go to their home and stage an intervention. You’re not responsible for anyone’s recovery but your own.

If you want to offer support, that’s wonderful! But remember that you’re powerless over people, places, and things. Not everyone is ready for recovery. But you can let them know about the tools available and help give them the resources to get help when they are ready. (12-step meeting lists, crisis hotline numbers, and peer recovery coach numbers can help. You can find these online!)

You’ve planted a seed, but it may need some time to grow. Your own recovery can be an example to your loved one. Let go of expectations. Turn it over to your higher power.

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